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Getting Divorced? A reading list.
If you're looking for book suggestions to help you through divorce, here are some of my current favourites. There's an overlap between books that address divorce directly and those that deal with some of the wider issues - like parenting, emotional adjustment and...
Children as Weapons
A poem (or cautionary tale) for parents engaged in high-conflict divorce. Now our marriage is spiralling, Spinning beyond our control And we have wounded each other Love-lost, vow-broken, ring-thrown. First we used silence as weapons Then we used words and then...
And breathe…
Feel in need of calm? If you have five minutes you can breathe yourself into a more relaxed state by following this rhythm. Breathing is a simple yet powerful way to influence your state of mind. If you're looking for other ways to calm yourself down, have you...
Sometimes
Sometimes we all need a bit of encouragement. When a client says, 'if it can go wrong, it will' I respond by saying, 'have you considered that if it could go right, it will?' Sometimes there are pleasant surprises, even during divorce. This poem is a beautiful nod to...
#LockdownDivorce
Going into lockdown again fills all of us with a certain dread, but perhaps it's hardest for those who are waiting for the 'right time' to get divorced and perceiving that it has to wait until post-lockdown. I feel pretty strongly that if your marriage is ruined, now...
Happy even after: Hugo’s Story
Hugo (not his real name) met me via a Facebook group mid-way through his divorce. He was desperately sad and desperately confused but determined to divorce without squandering savings. I recently heard from Hugo that he has met a new partner - he’s not only well...
Divorcing a Narcissist: What you Need to Know
Narcissists can be a nightmare. And divorcing one is often a nightmare too. But for many people, the first time they hear the word ‘narcissist’ is when they file their divorce application. It's a mystery to them, and unravelling this mystery is crucial....
Coparenting for Beginners
If you’re separating or divorcing and have children, coparenting will be on your mind. Regardless of separation or divorce, children’s welfare and wellbeing is of paramount importance. Your coparenting relationship centres on this while also being central to...
Harrowing
I stumbled across this poem when I read 'Reboot' by Jerry Colonna - a book I enjoyed and recommend. Divorce recovery coaching is metaphorical planting for your 'greening season'. The plow has savaged this sweet fieldMisshapen clods of earth kicked upRocks and twisted...
Happy even after: Helen’s Story
Helen (not her real name) came to me a few weeks before her first court hearing, some months into her divorce journey. She was a nervous wreck and had taken to drinking through her child-free weekends. Her ex had left her out of the blue several months...
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