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‘How long will my divorce take?’ A look at the data.
Does the prospect of still being [legally] married this time next year fill you with dread? A commonly-asked question at the start of divorce is ‘how long will this take?’. It’s hard not to give that frustrating response, ‘how long is a piece of string?’. Helpfully,...
Plotting a divorce in secret? Read on…
One question I’ve heard over and over during the past three months is, ‘what are you looking forward to once lockdown’s over?’ For some, it’s moving forward with separation and divorce. Maybe you’re one of the people who’s waiting for a time when you can...
Mental Health Awareness Week 2020
It's Mental Health Awareness Week and the theme is 'kindness', which I love. So often, mental health can seem out of reach; complicated; something you might get a chance at if you stay on a waiting list long enough, find the 'right' therapist or take...
Chronicles of Narcissism
There is a psychological dimension to divorce as well as a logical one. So often, I speak to people who are divorcing someone with narcissistic tendencies. This presents some specific challenges that we address head-on. Healing from a relationship with a narcissist...
30 things I love about coaching
I started working with coaches a couple of years ago and consider them crucial to my life and work. I was reflecting on this, and considering some of the ways coaches can help. You might never have hired a coach before - well, divorce is a great time to find a coach...
How will COVID-19 affect divorcing parents?
This is the first time I’ve written about C-19… it probably won't be the last. Last week, WHO issued guidelines on protecting your mental health during the outbreak of coronavirus. The guidelines suggest that you ‘seek information mainly to take practical steps...
The Split: How well does it represent real-life divorce?
I’m a little late to the party but I’ve finally watched The Split. I’m fascinated by the world of family law and I love a good BBC drama, and I now proclaim myself a fan. As I watched, at times I found myself nodding with recognition and at others I bristled...
How to have a better argument
Keeping conflict low during separation and divorce: the struggle is real. Sometimes we need help to have a better argument. Comedy might not seem like the obvious starting point for advice on managing conflict and dispute, but American comedian and public speaker Ze...
Mad or stupid?
Divorcing mums always hope it will be straightforward - separation is never a decision people take lightly and we want the best for our children. With record numbers of couples fighting it out in the Family Court, what happens to make divorce go sour? There are two...
All’s fair in love and… divorce
Last week, I was at the inaugural Divorce Fair in Kensington. It was a great opportunity to meet people and hear talks from various experts in this field. I enjoyed talking to financial planners, coaches, lawyers and more. During the day, the same messages came up...
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