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Divorce and broken families

Divorce and broken families

Separation and divorce will reshape your family but it doesn't have to break it. Yes, living arrangements may change; one or both of you may get a new partner; relationships will shift and alter. However, I firmly dismiss the suggestion that divorce should break...

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Separated summers

Separated summers

Although the weather might have us believe anything but, summer is in full swing. For thousands of separated families, this means children will be dividing their time between two parents during the school holidays. In some cases this is an informal or flexible...

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Getting divorced? Get started.

Getting divorced? Get started.

No one has ever had your divorce before. This can be a source of frustration and creativity. Frustrating, because you have to decide where to start. Creative for the same reason. And even once you've worked out how to get started, there are plenty of decisions ahead....

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Mental Health Awareness Week 2021

Mental Health Awareness Week 2021

It’s Mental Health Awareness Week… As you go through divorce, mental health becomes especially important. Divorce can compromise your mental health. Compromise, yes, but not destroy. Sometimes divorce and separation can feel as though your life is being turned inside...

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Getting Divorced? A reading list.

Getting Divorced? A reading list.

If you're looking for book suggestions to help you through divorce, here are some of my current favourites. There's an overlap between books that address divorce directly and those that deal with some of the wider issues - like parenting, emotional adjustment and...

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Children as Weapons

Children as Weapons

A poem (or cautionary tale) for parents engaged in high-conflict divorce. Now our marriage is spiralling,  Spinning beyond our control And we have wounded each other Love-lost, vow-broken, ring-thrown. First we used silence as weapons Then we used words and then...

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And breathe…

And breathe…

Feel in need of calm? If you have five minutes you can breathe yourself into a more relaxed state by following this rhythm. Breathing is a simple yet powerful way to influence your state of mind. If you're looking for other ways to calm yourself down, have you...

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Sometimes

Sometimes

Sometimes we all need a bit of encouragement. When a client says, 'if it can go wrong, it will' I respond by saying, 'have you considered that if it could go right, it will?' Sometimes there are pleasant surprises, even during divorce. This poem is a beautiful nod to...

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#LockdownDivorce

#LockdownDivorce

Going into lockdown again fills all of us with a certain dread, but perhaps it's hardest for those who are waiting for the 'right time' to get divorced and perceiving that it has to wait until post-lockdown. I feel pretty strongly that if your marriage is ruined, now...

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Happy even after: Hugo’s Story

Happy even after: Hugo’s Story

Hugo (not his real name) met me via a Facebook group mid-way through his divorce. He was desperately sad and desperately confused but determined to divorce without squandering savings.  I recently heard from Hugo that he has met a new partner - he’s not only well...

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