Divorce and broken families

by | 11 Aug 2021

Separation and divorce will reshape your family but it doesn’t have to break it.

Yes, living arrangements may change; one or both of you may get a new partner; relationships will shift and alter.

However, I firmly dismiss the suggestion that divorce should break families. As anyone who has worked with me will know, I encourage clients to choose and use their words carefully. Breakdown can change to healing, and even when parents separate, families can still experience union.

Glennon Doyle’s excellent book ‘Untamed’ includes an important observation on broken families, and I want to share it with you:

A broken family is a family in which any member must break herself in pieces which fit in. A whole family is one which each member can bring her full self to the table, knowing that she will always be both held and free.

Untamed, Glennon Doyle

Food for thought?

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